Tuesday, January 12, 2010

The Language of Love and Respect

Title: The Language of Love & Respect
Author: Emerson Eggerichs
Genre: Christian Non-Fiction
Page Count: 368
Why I read it: Received review copy from Thomas Nelson publisher
Grade: B-

Finally an answer for the number one problem in marriages—communication! This analysis of the vital principles of cross-gender communication helps couples recognize they speak two different languages. They are sending each other messages in "code" but won't be able to crack that code until they realize that she listens to hear the language of love and he listens for respect.

Most advice on this subject fails to understand that husbands and wives are wired very differently, and when those wires get crossed, the communication sparks can fly!

My review:
There seemed to be a whole lot of repetition in this book.  Men and women are different (blue and pink, in this book).  Men desire to be respected by their wives, and women desire to be loved by their husbands.  When one spouse isn't feeling the love or respect, the crazy cycle begins, and it goes round and round until one of them decides to stop it.  It's not good to live in the crazy cycle.  And even if your spouse doesn't show you love (or respect), it'll be best for all involved if you show respect (or love) anyway.

So, that was pretty much the message of the book.  Repeat as necessary for 368 pages.  But, it's a good message.  Really good.  I think if one or both spouses really followed what was in this book, they'd have a happy, content marriage.  So, while I felt that the book could have been shortened quite a bit, I think it was a good book, for the message.  I'd recommend this to Christian couples who might be having trouble in their marriage.


  1. A very interesting, short, simple concept relationship book I discovered last year from my daughter's book club is: The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. Makes a lot of sense. It's worth a look see.

    I've been married 31 years and still learned something.

  2. Thanks for the rec, Kim! I've heard of that book before, but never read it.